My mother blamed calling it a “spontaneous abortion” for the “confusion” that led my neighbors health insurance company to deny coverage for her miscarriage. Now that I’m older I’m just like no the insurance company just didn’t want to pay and found a reason that would hopefully traumatize a woman out of fighting them on it and were backed by a wider society that just hates women in general. Like I’ve heard people say it’s more humane to call it a spontaneous abortion because “miscarriage” implies the woman did something wrong and idt the wording is actually going to manage to make the experience that much less awful but regardless I also don’t think the wording was actually the issue in that situation. And the word abortion wouldn’t be that stigmatized either if we didn’t consider pregnancy as a punishment for sex that must be meted out no matter the circumstances of the sex itself or the physical, emotional, or social safety of the resulting pregnancy.

That being said, these people were clearly unwell, punishing them for the horrors brought forth by their poor decisions seems gratuitous.

Prostitution and sex trafficking are also pretty common among substance using women. The lower rate of homelessness among women is mostly just because a brothel has a roof. If we were just housing and feeding them in livable conditions and having them attend outpatient treatment while offering birth control you wouldn’t see this nearly as much. Birth control is pretty critical to giving a woman the immediate safety needed to exit any kind of abusive relationship whether it’s a domestic partner or a pimp / madam. Food and housing don’t hurt either, and if you can get them to break the addiction and not need drug money you’ve done pretty much everything possible to help them break the cycle. It’s actually pretty rewarding to see how many people can figure it out with the right supports in place.

Oh this reminded me of this short (trigger warning for extremely dark / gross nurse humor).

The real big one is arctic / cold water distance swimming. Women have a higher % body fat on average meaning they float better and are better insulated. Ultramarathon events overall seem to be pretty evenly matched for the most part, but that specific subset has been pretty women dominated. The g force thing applies more specifically to people who are smaller and in particular shorter, which women are on average so in that one weights being equal, no.

Well, and this what men are getting to when they get upset about men’s rights and bring up the draft right? It’s genuinely something they should be mad about they’re just misdirecting their anger.

I’ve thought about this one a lot; there’s several fanfics I’ve written that touch on this; one is an alternate of historical fictions and the other involves the Drow from the forgotten realms. There’s this tendency (especially in erotic media) for matriarchal societies to have women act more masculine and sexually aggressive and have men crawling around on the floor in excrement and it always bugs me. There’s so many existing negative stereotypes of men and positive stereotypes of women that could just be inversely accentuated to create that kind of society. I could talk for days about that one, LOL.

I feel like it’s less about putting people in power (although it may do that to a certain extent) and more about reinforcing the role of poor and minority men as disposable tools. War is a means for the rich and powerful to squabble over resources, but it’s also a way for them to exert their control over a large population of men. One of my bigger feminist sticking points on the topic of how patriarchy hurts men is that its not just about controlling women, its also about creating a class of men who are disposable by convincing them that it’s either for the benefit of women and / or to help them control women too (which it does a little, it’s just that most of that power is still going to a small subset of men).

This is especially wild when you consider that some of the sports / feats women are often if not usually better at include shooting, distance / endurance events, and withstanding high g-forces without losing consciousness, which are way more useful in a modern military than the high jump or javelin throwing.

I’ve been taking crisis deescalation classes for a decade and got certified to teach them this year. I’ve had classes that teach this as a good posture to keep because it keeps your hands visible and ready to cover your face. To me it reads as extremely dishonest. I think there’s a bit of an art to it and everybody’s ideal stance is going to be a little different depending on their style of interaction, but that’s definitely not one that would look good on me.

See this is why I couldn’t work corrections. I love them so much (they’re so creative) and I can’t stand to watch them suffer. Also I already have problems with psych techs charting 170 / bust in the water main pressures and not telling me, I do NOT want to deal with COs “diagnosing” pseudoseizures on the spot and just walking off and leaving somebody to flop without a damn word to anybody.

ICE detention space limits

I wonder when that’ll stop mattering.

That’s exactly what I mean, and I agree that it sounds awful. It’s like people go into these conversations deciding which side the other person is on based on which they can argue the most with.

At this point the trolley problem is "would you like to vote for killing 1000 per year for the next four years or would you like to vote for killing 4000 people this year with the hope that maybe it’ll cause the whole trolley system to self destruct…? (The numbers are purely illustrative).

Edit: apparently it’s not obvious that I think these are both horrible options, and I voted for the limping painfully along for an extended period.